Words matter
“Let your speech be always with grace, seasoned with salt …” (Colossians 4:6)
Words affect all of us differently. They can inspire, encourage, motivate and bring about an array of happy feelings. Sometimes in the course of the day, we need to pay attention to the ways we speak, particularly saying words we do not mean, or “just joking”. Such thoughtless articulations just hurt. If it is meant to be a joke, it should be communicated and explained well for the other party to receive. After all what is life is all is taken in seriousness, humour is part of living as the Bible says “laughter makes a good medicine”. However humour should not be at the expense of others like most of the noon time television programs over local TV stations.
We need to take responsibility not only for our intentions, but also for how we are perceived. We cannot control other people’s reactions, but we can be aware of how our language may affect others. Sebastyne Young, who authored the book, “Wait Until You’re Old and Alone” said, “A picture can tell a thousand words, but a few words can change its story.”
Let us maximize our communication skills by carefully choosing words in its context, place expletively to make a point, not with political correctness, but with sensitivity and respect.
There is a widespread epidemic of “laziness with words”, in ways our talk. Words are beautiful tools, skilfully crafted and properly wielded would bring refreshing to the listeners (Prov. 10:19, 17:27, 25:11).
This Valentine, take some time out to catch those memorable moments when you were romancing. Just one simple tip: talk with your spouse, not to your spouse. The first is a mutual dialogue, to listen quietly, valuing the other person on the same level. The latter is to give information, instruction, opinions and the like. Vague demanding phrases are being repeated in a conversation like, “I tell you …”, “You know …”, “You should …” “You always …” like a broken down record.
Remember that unwholesome words grieve the Holy Spirit (Ephesians 4:29-30)
Celebrate your marriage every day!